Why Do Girls Like Bad Boys?

© RJ Palak

“Papa ki pari hu main” You must be wondering why I’m singing this song. See, when you’ll hear this song in detail. Then you’ll get to know that this girl has Daddy Issues!

Sorry Sooraj Barjatya, but in your film, everyone has Daddy Issues, Auntie Issues, Mommy Issues all the issues! But in today’s article. we’ll talk about, Daddy Issues.

This is not a medical term and nor have scientists discovered this ‘Daddy Issues. The term ‘Daddy Issues’ was made by some flirty Bad boys from the west, and in shows like ‘How I Met Your Mother where Barney Stinson goes to any room and says That’s how it became popular!

But why do you get Daddy Issues? And if you have Daddy Issues, then what should you do?

Read the article till the end to find out! Growing up, we might have many issues with our caregivers that you might not even remember.

This happens in growing up years when we are forming memories and registering memories in our subconscious mind Now, these caregivers can be anyone Your Mom,

Dad, Aunt, Uncle, Grandparents, anyone. So that is why these issues are not Daddy Issues. These are called Attachment Issues!

No… Not that email attachment, THIS attachment. Now, this attachment, like Capsicum has 4 types, even attachment has 4 types.

Now just take a normal family, I’m not saying that this is the social convention, everyone’s family is different and time has changed now.

The father was the head of the family, and most of the time they used to be outside the home.

Sometimes they used to come in the evening, sometimes fathers didn’t even meet their children Monday-Friday and met them only on weekends, in such times what happened was, children used to get greedy for their father’s approval because what about Mom?

The world has taken Moms for granted; Mom is always at home.

Whether you don’t bathe for 4 days for Mom, you’re the Dear Son. So, children didn’t have the fight for their mom’s approval.

They had a fight for their dads! Now in such, the father is the head of the family he’s been kept at such a high pedestal so what would they do?

The children tried to replicate the father’s attitude and father’s actions, trying to be like him. Growing up, for us, I’m talking about girls, the first male-female relationship that we develop is with our fathers.

So somewhere, that creates a foundation for our other relations.

Because growing up, if our father plays a lot with us, is very smart and intelligent, and takes care of Mom, then we think that ‘Every guy in the world is chill.’

But on the other hand, if we feel that our dad is abusive and doesn’t respect then somewhere we feel, ‘Every guy is like this?’

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And also pay attention to this thing, what happens is when you’re in such an environment where your father is an absentee father is not around you, abusive, and emotionally unavailable then somewhere, many girls choose a similar guy who is the same as their father.

And they don’t do this on purpose this happens subconsciously. You must’ve heard girls saying this many times, “I always get such useless guys, I always get guys who don’t reply to my messages.”

Now in all this, who is ineffectual? The Good Boys! Yes. Many guys get friend-zoned at little things. Many guys say that I’m so good still, girls don’t give me attention.

Now, these girls have Daddy Issues they’re looking for a guy who is emotionally unavailable, don’t give reply to their texts, maintain a toxic relationship because deep down, since childhood, they’ve seen similar men and they’re subconsciously looking for a similar man.

So good guys, this is not your fault. And I’ll say, what’s the fault of the girls too? These subconscious mind games are happening with us!

But, like every rule has an exception, there can also be such exceptions where maybe you didn’t have a good father in your childhood but growing up, you vow to yourself that “I want a person who respects me” and you break that pattern!

You can do that. But, my dear friend does only girls have Daddy Issues? No. Even guys have Daddy Issues. If you are a child of any sex, growing up, the father always affects you. In the 1900s, this was not called Daddy Issues, this was called Father Complex.

In 1909, the Guru of Psychology, Mr. Freud he told a weird myth. Its name is Oedipus Myth. Just like the name is complicated, even the theory is complicated. If you feel bad later, I’ll say sorry in advance.

What happens according to this myth, the small children who are boys, they subconsciously want to marry their mom.

Because in their childhood, they only know one woman, at that time there wasn’t any dating app for swiping left and right but yes, they want to marry their mothers.

And who’s the villain in between? Father. Now they think, how to kill the father? But then they realize that they are the Rs. 5 Munch, and the father is Rs. 50 Silk. How will there be a competition?

So, for this, they think ‘Why not become like our dads?’ Already he’s already impressed our moms, then maybe even my fate will shine? In the future, even I’ll bring home someone like mom?

Freud even believed that the relationship of your parents that you see while growing up, the same relationship you try to replicate after growing up.

You must’ve thought or seen many times that many guys say that “We don’t know what a Happy Marriage is.” “We don’t know what is a good relationship.” Not because they can’t see around them and they haven’t seen films they haven’t seen their friends, they haven’t seen their relatives, but because growing up, they haven’t seen a happy marriage.

Rather, if you’ll notice carefully, then the characters of the shows you like a lot, subconsciously you try to be like them and bring those things even into your life.

“I’m Lily from How I Met Your Mother.” Daddy Issues is a western concept, because there, abortion laws are different and there are more abandonment issues there, there’s more teen pregnancy there.

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Here, the daddy issues I see in my friends and colleagues that is of high expectations where the father had extreme expectations from his children, or were the father didn’t communicate with their children or third, where they idolize their father so much that and consider him so perfect that they don’t see him as a person they see him as a Super God or Super Father who doesn’t have any faults.

All the fathers should communicate with their children later in life, that he is not a superhero even he is a normal human. Or the next person she’ll choose to be their partner, she’ll compare him with her dad all the time, “My Dad was a Super God, what is he?”

Generally, in pop culture reference, if Daddy Issues is used then it is for those girls who are interested in guys older than their age.

Meaning that there’s a huge gap and he looks like a dad, and the second is ‘Sleep Easy’ I don’t believe in all this but generally, this term is used for those and even for those girls, who are very pretty but they don’t know they fall faster for approval. Do you like Bad boys who are more than your age?

Do you frequently get stuck in toxic relationships? Then if even you are suffering from Daddy Issues, then the cure to this…

The cure to this is nowhere, the cure is here itself. Inside yourself, alright? Get to know yourself, analyse your past relationships. What kind of guys am I dating?

Which relationships do I like? Which people I don’t like? Study Yourself a bit more. What do you like?

What don’t you like? What triggers you? Do all this. Now what you’ll think is, “7 of my relationships failed”.

Pay attention to them, Research on them a bit, Dig the grave of it that what had happened that they went away? Did 5 out of the 7 cheats on you?

Were 5 out of them emotionally unavailable? Did 4-5 of them not respect me?

So somewhere, you’ll get a pattern and you can compare that growing up, was my father the same? You’ll get to know the pattern.

Once you get to know the pattern, then it will be easy for you to break the pattern. You’ll get to know that frequently, I love such a person who break my heart. Now, I don’t have time. I have to think about myself.

After that, you have to become the emotional CID i.e., ‘Break the door Daya… of your heart.’ You’ll have to get to know about your father because what happens is when girls grow up and we get boyfriends in our life, get cool friends, and we get internet, then who would want to talk to their dads and moms?

But somewhere, the person, who is your dad or mom, has defined your adulthood, the people you are liking, you have decided that in 7-8 years. So, it is very necessary to know that person. So, talk to your father. Like I’d said, you think he’s a Super Hero, then see his faults, that even he is a normal person. Know your fathers.

Know that when they were not available, or were not present in your life, what was happening? Because parents never tell their children the reality. Santa Claus isn’t real, when did we get to know this?

I still believe he’s real. But anyways. So, know your fathers you’ll get to know a lot about your life. Last but not the least, Close the Loop.

If you think that during your childhood, your father didn’t pay attention to you, didn’t love you, didn’t do what? Didn’t take you to see the zoo, go on your own.

Didn’t take you to the museum, go on your own! What’s the problem? Didn’t see a movie? Didn’t go to Disney World?

You can go on your own. Close the Loop! Or what’ll happen is she’ll be father-hunger. That I couldn’t do this in childhood, if someone takes me to the zoo, I’ll give my life to them. No!

You are enough for yourself. Do those things on your own. And get rid of any issues. Know Yourself, and find a partner who ultimately respects you, and loves you, now this is different than if your dad was very handsome then you’ll be like, “I can’t compromise.” “I want a good-looking guy.” Then that’s okay.

But emotionally, no one has the right to torture you and make you feel inadequate. Daddy Issues and Mommy Issues can go to hell.

 And if you think that you can’t handle these issues on your own, then there is no shame and no harm in talking to a therapist.

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