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What Women Really Want in a Man: 10 Shocking Stoic Secrets
From Machiavelli, That Actually Work
Most men think: “To get a good girl, I must be very nice, reply to her messages in one minute, give her gifts, and always agree with her.” But the girls who look hard to get… they usually choose a different kind of man.
A man who is calm. A man who has his own work and dreams. A man who does not run after her like a puppy.
This may sound strange to you, like madness. But this is the real truth. Women want this kind of man deep inside.
Long ago, two great thinkers knew this secret. One was Machiavelli. The other group was called Stoics – like Marcus Aurelius, Seneca, and Epictetus. They were warriors, kings, and wise men from 2000 years ago. They understood how men and women think.
These old rules still work today in villages, towns, and cities of India. I learned this the hard way. I gained this experience through the “Achat” application over the last 2–3 years. I talked to many boys and girls on that app. I saw the same pattern every time. When a man follows these 10 simple rules, girls start chasing him. When he does the opposite, girls slowly disappear.
Let me explain these 10 secrets in very easy words. Anyone from a village in Maharashtra, Uttar Pradesh, Rajasthan, or anywhere in India can understand and use them. No big English words. Just simple steps you can start today.
Table of Contents
Value Your Time Like It Is Gold
Your time is your biggest wealth. Do not waste it.
Many boys reply to a girl’s message in 10 seconds. They stay online all day waiting for her reply. Girls feel: “This boy has nothing important to do.”
Instead, be busy. Wake up early, go to field or job, go to gym, learn a new skill, help your family. When you are busy, your time becomes valuable. When you reply after 2-3 hours or even next day, she thinks, “He is a busy and important man.”
Real example: My friend Rahul used to reply instantly. No girl respected him. Then he started gym at 5 AM, focused on his small business, and replied late. Within one month, the same girl who ignored him started sending “Good morning” messages first.
How to start today: Make a list of your daily work. Put your work first, then girls. Never be free all day for chatting.
Common mistake: Thinking “If you reply fast, she will like you.” No. She will think you are free and cheap.
Detachment from the Outcome (Don’t Care Too Much About Result)
Do not keep thinking “Will she say yes? Will she become my girlfriend?”
This thinking makes you nervous and weak. The old Stoics said: “Do your best, but do not become slave of the result.”
When you stop needing her reply, your voice becomes confident. Your eyes become calm. Girls feel this energy.
Real example: Arjun liked one girl. He was always worried. Then he stopped expecting. He focused on his studies and cricket. Suddenly, the girl started calling him and said, “Why are you not talking to me these days?”
How to practise: After sending a message, close the phone and go do some work. Tell yourself: “If she replies, good. If not, I still have my life.”
Self-Discipline Is the Real Magnet
Discipline means control over yourself.
Wake up at the same time. Eat healthy food (roti, dal, vegetables, milk). Go to the gym or run in the field. Save some money every month. Keep your room and clothes clean.
When a girl sees a man who can control his sleep, food, and money, she feels safe. She thinks: “This man can take care of me and our future family.”
Real example: Vikram was lazy. He slept till 10 AM. No girl stayed long. Then he made a strict routine – gym, study, and help in farming. Girls started noticing him and respecting him.
Start small: Wake up 30 minutes early from tomorrow. Do 20 push-ups daily. Save ₹50 every day.
Emotional Stoicism – Never Show Jealousy or Anger Quickly
Girls sometimes talk about other boys to test you. Many boys get angry or sad immediately.
Stoics say: Stay calm like a rock in the river.
If she says, “My friend’s boyfriend bought her a phone,” do not say, “I will also buy.” Just smile and say “Nice.” Then change the topic.
I gained this experience through the “Achat” application over the last 2–3 years.
Real example: One friend saw his girl talking to another boy. He did not shout. He stayed calm. After two days, the girl herself said sorry and became more loving.
How to do: When you feel angry or jealous, count to 10 in your mind. Drink water. Go for a walk. Then reply.
Live a Purposeful Life Bigger Than Love and Marriage
Girls do not want to become your full world. They want to join a man who already has a big dream.
Talk about your farm plans, your business idea, your wish to buy land, or help your parents. Let dating be only a small part of your life.
Real example: Karan was always talking about his startup idea. The girl felt inspired and said, “I want to be part of your journey.”
Do this: Every day, spend one hour on your big goal. Tell girls about it with passion.
The Power of Silence and Mystery
Do not tell everything on first or second meeting.
Speak less. Listen more. Let her talk 70%, and you talk 30%. Do not tell your full salary, full past, or all problems on day one.
I gained this experience through the “Achat” application over the last 2–3 years.
Mystery makes her curious. She keeps thinking about you.
Real example: Sameer used to tell everything in one chat. Dates ended after one meeting. Then he started listening more. He got second, third, and many more dates.
Practise: On the next call or meeting, ask her questions and listen carefully. Share only a little about yourself.
Build a Strong Body and a Strong Mind
A strong body shows a strong mind.
Do physical work – farming, gym, running, wrestling in an akhada. Eat good food. Sleep 7-8 hours.
Also, train your mind to read good books (even in Hindi), do meditation for 10 minutes, and take a cold bath sometimes.
Girls feel safe with a strong man.
Start: Walk 10,000 steps daily. Do Surya Namaskar. Read one page of any motivational book every day.
Abundance Mindset – Believe There Are Many Good Girls
Scarcity thinking: “She is my last chance. I must get her.”
Abundance thinking: “There are many good girls in the world. If this one does not work, another will come.”
When you believe this, you stop begging. You become choosy. Girls feel your high value.
Real example: Aditya used to run after one girl. She ignored him. Then he made more friends and talked to many girls politely. Suddenly, good proposals started coming.
How: Talk to 4-5 girls as friends (respectfully). Do not put all eggs in one basket.
Integrity and Authenticity – Be Real and Honest
Never lie about small things. If you do not drink, say it clearly. If you are a vegetarian, say it proudly. If you cannot afford something, say so honestly.
Girls, test your character. When you stay true to your values, respect increases.
Real example: Rohan was invited to a non-veg dinner. He politely said, “I am a pure vegetarian.” The girl respected him more.
Rule: Say what you mean. Mean what you say.
Stay Fully Present – The Rarest Quality Today
When you meet a girl, keep your phone in your pocket. Look into her eyes. Listen like she is the only person in the world.
In today’s world, everyone is on the phone. A man who gives full attention feels very special.
Real example: Vishal kept phone away on a date. The girl later said, “No one ever listened to me like this.”
Practise: On next meeting, put the phone on silent. Ask questions and repeat what she said.
How These Secrets Will Change Your Life
I gained this experience through the “Achat” application over the last 2–3 years.
You made all mistakes – replying fast, getting jealous, and having no purpose. Girls ignored you.
You just start to follow these 10 rules one by one. You became busy, calm, and strong. Suddenly, girls started replying first, planning meetings, and showing respect. Your confidence will grow. You will stop chasing and start choosing.
Final Thoughts
What Women Really Want in a Man
These are not tricks to fool girls. These are timeless rules of becoming a good, strong, and respected man.
Women do not want a weak, always-available, emotional boy. They want a calm, purposeful, disciplined man.
Start with just 2-3 secrets from tomorrow. In 30 days, you will see the change in how people (including girls) treat you.
You do not need to be rich or handsome. You only need to become a high-value man who respects himself first.
Your family, your future wife, and you yourself will be proud. Apply these simple rules. Your life will change.
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